Gabriel told Mary she was to conceive of the Holy Spirit, then, she conceived just when she said, “Le it be done to me according to your word.” Immediately afterwards, she travelled south to the home of Zechariah and Elizabeth. She returned to Nazareth after Elizabeth had borne her son six month later.
The people of Nazareth, seeing Mary to be with child congratulated her spouse Joseph on becoming a father. And Mary, for her own reasons, did not tell Joseph how she came to be pregnant.
The Bible described Joseph as being a just man, and he was just in every way. For one thing, presuming the child to be the son of another, as a just man, he could not take that stranger’s son as his own.
But, knowing Mary to be good through and through, as a just man, he could not subject her to the pain of a public divorce.
For someone caught between two such unsatisfactory choices my mother used to say, “You are damned if you do, you are damned if you don’t.” Another way of expressing such a predicament is to say you are “in a bind.”
When you are in a bind just do what Joseph did, namely, leave it to God.
Once, teaching grade school. I asked each kid to describe a time when he of she was in a bind. One kid wrote, “My parents got divorced, and I love my dad, but he put me in a bind when he was marrying again. He asked me to be his best man.”